Elliott Farris, LAC
If your relationship feels stuck, if you’re battling pornography or sexual addiction in secret, or if anxiety and discouragement have you questioning your worth, Elliott may be the right counselor for you. He helps adults, teens, and couples heal relational patterns, restore hope, and build a stronger sense of identity.
Elliott’s approach is warm, reflective, and encouraging—yet clear and direct when it matters most. He primarily uses Emotion-Focused Therapy and the Gottman Method with couples and integrates attachment theory and performance psychology into his work. When requested, Elliott can naturally incorporate biblical principles, prayer, and Scripture into the counseling process.
For clients under 18, the first appointment is a parent-only session.
Does this sound like you?
You do not need to relate to everything. One familiar experience may be enough to keep exploring.
Your relationship keeps returning to the same painful conflict
You may love each other deeply but feel trapped in defensiveness, withdrawal, criticism, or recurring arguments that never seem fully resolved. You want to understand the pattern and find your way back to trust and connection.
Pornography or sexual behavior has become a hidden struggle
Shame, secrecy, broken promises, or repeated attempts to stop may be affecting your identity and relationships. You want an honest, nonjudgmental place to understand what drives the pattern and begin building lasting freedom.
Your worth feels tied to how well you perform
Whether in athletics, school, work, or another high-pressure environment, fear of failure and relentless expectations may make it difficult to rest, feel confident, or recognize who you are apart from what you accomplish.
Anxiety and self-doubt are making you question yourself
You may overthink decisions, become discouraged easily, or feel pressure to hold everything together. Even when others see you as capable, you may privately wonder whether you are falling behind or somehow not enough.
You are navigating a season that is reshaping your identity
A change in relationships, athletics, school, career, family, or faith may have left you uncertain about what comes next. You want room to think honestly, understand yourself more clearly, and move forward with confidence and purpose.
You want faith included in a way that feels natural
You may want biblical truth, prayer, or Scripture woven into counseling without receiving shallow answers or feeling pressured. You want space for both honest struggle and meaningful spiritual growth.
What it feels like to work with Elliott
A steady place to tell the whole story. Thoughtful insight to help you move forward.
Elliott brings a warm, calm, and unhurried presence into therapy. He listens deeply and creates enough safety for you to be honest about relationship conflict, shame, anxiety, disappointment, or the parts of your story that have been difficult to say out loud.
His style is reflective, encouraging, and client-led. Elliott asks thoughtful questions, notices the larger patterns, and offers clear perspective when you are ready for it. He knows when to hold space and when being more direct may help you recognize something important.
Read more about Elliott’s style
- A calm, approachable, and unhurried presence
- Thoughtful questions and big-picture insight
- Clear, direct feedback without judgment or pressure
- Hopeful encouragement with practical next steps
Specialized areas of focus
Where Elliott brings particular depth
Couples counseling + relational conflict When recurring conflict, defensiveness, or emotional distance has made it difficult to feel like partners. Explore this specialty Close specialty
You may care deeply about each other while continuing to repeat the same argument. One partner may pursue connection while the other withdraws. Criticism, defensiveness, silence, resentment, or unresolved hurt can gradually make the relationship feel unsafe or emotionally distant.
Elliott primarily uses Emotion-Focused Therapy and integrates the Gottman Method to help couples understand the cycle beneath their conflict. He helps partners move beyond blame, recognize the needs and emotions driving their reactions, communicate more openly, repair after conflict, and begin rebuilding trust, closeness, and a stronger sense of partnership.
Pornography + sexual addiction When secrecy, shame, and repeated attempts to stop have left you feeling discouraged or disconnected. Explore this specialty Close specialty
Pornography or compulsive sexual behavior can become a private way to manage stress, loneliness, rejection, anxiety, anger, or emotional pain. Over time, the cycle may create shame, secrecy, broken promises, damaged trust, and the painful sense that your behavior is controlling more of your life than you want it to.
Elliott offers a calm, nonjudgmental place to tell the truth about what is happening. He helps clients understand the emotional and relational roots of the behavior, recognize triggers and protective patterns, develop practical strategies, and build greater honesty and accountability. When requested, he can also incorporate Christian perspectives on grace, identity, integrity, and lasting freedom.
Athletes, high performers + performance anxiety When the pressure to succeed has become entangled with your confidence, identity, or sense of worth. Explore this specialty Close specialty
Performance pressure can make every mistake feel defining. You may overthink, fear disappointing other people, struggle to recover after a setback, or feel unsure who you are when you are injured, transitioning out of a role, or no longer achieving at the level you expect from yourself.
As a former collegiate athlete, Elliott understands the demands of competitive environments and the identity struggles that can accompany them. He helps athletes, students, and working professionals identify the thoughts and expectations fueling anxiety, develop grounding and self-compassion, build resilience, and define success in a way that extends beyond the scoreboard, classroom, or workplace.
A deeper look at the work
Explore more of Elliott’s specialties
The concern bringing you to therapy may be connected to several parts of your life. Explore the areas below for a fuller sense of the patterns Elliott can help you understand and the changes you may begin practicing.
Anxiety, stress + overthinking When worry, mental pressure, or fear of making the wrong decision makes it difficult to feel settled.
Anxiety can keep your mind focused on what might go wrong. You may replay conversations, question your decisions, anticipate disappointing other people, or feel unable to relax even when nothing requires your immediate attention.
Elliott helps you slow down and understand the thoughts, expectations, and emotional patterns fueling the anxiety. Rather than treating every fear as a fact, you can begin recognizing what is happening internally and responding with greater curiosity, steadiness, and perspective.
Therapy may include practical grounding skills, new ways of relating to self-critical thoughts, and small changes that help you remain present instead of allowing worry to direct your choices.
Depression, discouragement + self-worth When you feel disconnected, defeated, or uncertain that you are capable of meaningful change.
Depression may show up as exhaustion, withdrawal, irritability, loss of motivation, or the sense that nothing you do will make a meaningful difference. Negative beliefs about yourself can begin to feel like objective truths rather than symptoms of what you are carrying.
Elliott offers room to talk honestly without expecting you to minimize the difficulty or manufacture optimism. He helps you understand the experiences, losses, and internal patterns contributing to discouragement while continuing to recognize the strengths depression may be obscuring.
His hopeful approach does not rely on easy answers. Together, you can begin rebuilding connection, purpose, and confidence through realistic steps that support lasting change.
Anger, reactivity + emotional regulation When emotions build quickly, affect your relationships, or leave you regretting the way you responded.
Anger may be the emotion you recognize first, even when hurt, fear, rejection, shame, helplessness, or exhaustion is underneath it. When stress is high, your reactions may feel automatic and difficult to interrupt.
Elliott helps you become curious about what anger is trying to communicate or protect. He offers a nonjudgmental place to identify triggers, understand the deeper emotions involved, and recognize the thoughts that intensify your reactions.
Understanding anger does not mean excusing harmful behavior. Therapy can help you create more space between emotion and action, communicate more clearly, and respond in ways that better reflect your values and protect your relationships.
Grief, trauma + difficult transitions When loss or a painful experience has disrupted your stability, identity, relationships, or sense of direction.
Loss may follow a death, injury, relationship ending, career change, athletic transition, family disruption, or the loss of a future you expected to have. Painful past experiences may also continue to affect how safe you feel, how you relate to others, or what you believe about yourself.
Elliott provides a steady, unhurried place to acknowledge the full impact of what happened. He helps you explore grief, anger, confusion, regret, or emotional numbness without pressuring you to move on before you are ready.
Therapy can help you understand how the experience continues to shape you, develop greater compassion for your responses, and begin moving toward a life that honors what mattered without remaining entirely defined by what was lost.
Older teens + young adults Support for stress, identity, relationships, family dynamics, athletics, faith, and major transitions.
Adolescence and young adulthood can bring intense pressure to succeed, fit in, make important decisions, and become more independent—all while you are still learning who you are. Anxiety, discouragement, family conflict, relationship concerns, or changes in athletics and school may make this season feel especially uncertain.
Elliott’s calm and approachable style gives older teens and young adults room to speak honestly without feeling rushed, lectured, or treated like a problem to solve. He asks thoughtful questions and helps clients make sense of emotions, relationships, choices, and competing expectations.
Therapy can support stronger coping skills, healthier communication, greater self-awareness, and an identity that is not entirely dependent on achievement or approval from others. Faith can also be included when the client wants it.
Men’s issues, career + identity When pressure to be capable, successful, or self-sufficient has left little room for uncertainty or emotional need.
Many men have learned to manage difficulty privately, minimize emotional pain, or measure themselves by their ability to perform, provide, solve problems, and remain in control. You may appear capable while privately feeling isolated, discouraged, angry, uncertain, or disconnected from the people you love.
Elliott provides a straightforward and nonjudgmental space to explore relationships, career direction, sexual concerns, emotional health, faith, and the expectations shaping your identity. You do not need to have the right language for what you are experiencing before beginning.
Therapy can help you understand recurring patterns, communicate more honestly, recognize what you need, and develop a stronger identity that allows room for both responsibility and genuine connection.
Christian counseling with Elliott
Faith can be woven into counseling with honesty, grace, and room for the questions that do not have easy answers.
Elliott offers Christian counseling for teens, adults, and couples who want faith to be part of therapy. When requested, he can incorporate Scripture, prayer, biblical principles, and spiritual reflection into conversations about relationships, sexual addiction, anxiety, identity, performance pressure, and emotional health. Faith is never forced, used to shame you, or offered as a substitute for the honest emotional and relational work that healing requires.
How Elliott can incorporate faith when requested
Professional details
A closer look at Elliott’s practice
Review Elliott’s education, therapeutic approaches, client fit, and practical session information.
Credentials + education Arizona Licensed Associate Counselor • Gottman Level 1 Trained
LAC-24101
Reformed Theological Seminary
Texas A&M University
Texas A&M University
Level 1 Trained
Lauren Marks, LPC
Before becoming a counselor, Elliott competed in collegiate track and cross-country and later coached at the Division I level. His experience gives him a firsthand understanding of performance pressure, demanding goals, athletic identity, and the transition from competition into other stages of life.
Therapeutic approaches Calm, relational, attachment-focused, and client-led
Elliott adapts therapy to the person or couple in front of him rather than forcing every client into the same process. His work is grounded in attachment and emotional connection, with room for deeper exploration, practical tools, honest feedback, and respectful challenge.
With couples, Elliott primarily uses Emotion-Focused Therapy and principles from the Gottman Method to help partners understand the patterns beneath conflict and rebuild trust, closeness, and communication. With individuals, he often incorporates parts work, nervous-system regulation, and attachment-based approaches to help clients understand what is driving unwanted thoughts, emotions, or behaviors.
Who Elliott works with Adults • Teens 13+ • Couples • Athletes
Common areas of work
- Pornography, sexual addiction, and shame
- Couples conflict, disconnection, and communication
- Premarital counseling and relationship preparation
- Infidelity, betrayal, and rebuilding trust
- Sports performance, fear of failure, and athletic identity
- Anxiety, depression, stress, and discouragement
- Trauma, attachment wounds, rejection, and abandonment
- Anger, emotional regulation, and coping skills
- Grief, life transitions, career concerns, and burnout
- Teen identity, self-esteem, school stress, and family conflict
Therapy may fit particularly well if
- You want a calm therapist who will not rush the process.
- You feel ashamed, guarded, or afraid to tell the whole story.
- You are skeptical about counseling or have not connected with therapy before.
- You are high-functioning but struggling internally.
- You feel trapped in a relationship or behavioral pattern you cannot seem to change.
- You want deeper understanding along with practical tools.
- You appreciate open conversation and gentle challenge.
- You are willing to practice what you are learning between sessions.
- You want Christian faith included naturally and at your direction.
Elliott works with adults, couples, and teens ages 13 and older. For all minor clients, the first appointment is a parent-only session. Elliott does not treat active suicidality as a primary concern, Dissociative Identity Disorder, or custody-related concerns. Clients needing immediate stabilization may require a higher level of support.
Office + session details Oracle office + telehealth • Tuesdays–Fridays • $100 individual / $125 couples
Tucson, AZ 85704
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Couples counseling • $125 per session
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Elliott, in a few words
A little more about Elliott
Before becoming a counselor, Elliott competed in track and cross-country at Texas A&M and later coached distance runners at the Division I level. He still enjoys training for races and competing. Those experiences shaped his understanding of discipline, performance pressure, identity, and the tension between continually striving and learning how to rest.
Elliott feels most at home outside. He enjoys running, cycling, fly-fishing, hiking, camping, skiing, rock climbing, and almost any opportunity for an outdoor adventure. When life feels especially full, he is likely to reset with a long walk, time in nature, or a quiet cup of good coffee.
Elliott is also a husband and dad who values meaningful time with family and friends. He is actively involved in his church and community and enjoys theology, history, good stories, cooking, and learning everything he can about whichever hobby has most recently captured his attention.
How therapy may unfold
A steady, client-led process for understanding what holds you back—and moving toward greater freedom
Begin with safety
Start with what brought you to counseling and share your story at a pace that feels manageable. Elliott listens without rushing to fix you, creating room for honesty, curiosity, and the trust needed to explore what is really happening.
Understand what is underneath
Look beneath the argument, unwanted behavior, anxiety, or performance pressure. Together, you begin to recognize the emotions, attachment needs, protective patterns, and past experiences that help explain why change has felt so difficult.
Build freedom and connection
Practice responding differently—with yourself, in your relationships, and under pressure. Elliott helps you strengthen emotional awareness, communicate more honestly, and use practical tools that support lasting change beyond the session.
Growth is often imperceptible while it is happening—but honest connection, steady practice, and time can create more freedom than you thought possible.
One honest conversation can begin here
You can be unsure about therapy and still know something needs to change.
You may feel stuck in the same relationship conflict, ashamed of a struggle with pornography or sexual addiction, or exhausted from the pressure to keep performing. You may even be skeptical that therapy can help. Elliott will not rush you, force a process, or expect you to arrive with the right words. You can begin with what is happening now and, together, make sense of what has kept you stuck while building greater freedom, hope, and connection. If you are still deciding, take the time you need to compare counselors.