Dr. Chet Weld is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Christian marriage counselor and psychotherapist in Tucson, AZ. He is certified by the International Board of Christian Counselors and a member of the Society for Christian Psychologists.
Joshua Tree Counselors
Dr. Chet Weld, LPC
How Chet Can Help You
Are you looking for an experienced Christian-based counselor with a passion for God and for helping you have the best marriage possible? Or are you looking for a biblically-based individual counselor to help you with a variety of issues?
“Half of the counseling that I do is couple counseling, and the other half is individual therapy. Couple counseling almost always involves helping clients to break conflictual patterns while helping them build their relationship. It often involves resolving extended family issues and sometimes focuses on bringing healing due to a breach of the marriage covenant. In individual counseling, I help people with a wide range of issues such as anxiety, depression, codependency, and coping skills. I counsel part-time and I’m available in the office or through convenient teletherapy. Whether you’re a Christian, non-Christian, or simply seeking a more meaningful life, you’ll find that I’m “warm and human first, professional always.” — Dr. Chet
Dr. Weld seeks to develop a trusting and genuine relationship with each client. In both marriage and individual counseling, he integrates his favorite counseling models such as Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy and Family Systems Therapy into an approach that helps people draw on their “best selves” and on their faith, whether their faith is great or small. Integrating these approaches is all about helping people live more in the calming presence of God. Also, Dr. Weld believes that any principles or techniques that “work” are spoken of or illustrated in the Bible. He believes that living as best we can according to God’s Word and the use of prayer are the most effective means for change. He helps foster an awareness that God’s love pervades every moment of our lives and every portion of our being. This leads to greater acceptance of self and others. Dr. Weld’s counseling process and outcomes are practical. His commitment to each client is to help them achieve their counseling goals.
In a comfortable and friendly environment, or online with convenient teletherapy, he wants to help you find hope, purpose, and the satisfaction of meeting your counseling goals. Dr. Weld works with male and female adults.
You can reach out to Dr. Weld using the links provided or send him a message.
“Sorrow can be a bully.”
$150/hr Standard Fee
$120 Reduced Fee (Limited)
Will provide a superbill
Does NOT accept insurance
-Patterns (which can sometimes involve resolving issues with extended family members or healing from a breach in the marriage covenant)
Spiritual Wounding (by Church &/or Family)
Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
Family Systems Therapy
Transactional Analysis (TA)
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
*These and other models integrate well into my Christian-based approach.
AZ License 1574
EdD, Counseling Psychology
MEd, Counseling and Guidance
“Man is in reality what he is before God; no more and no less.” John Marie Vianney
Christian Counseling, Spiritual Growth, and Helping Pastors
I look at life and people through a lens that includes God. I believe God is present and active in the world and in our lives, often in miraculous ways! When someone is a Christian and wants faith included in the counseling, I usually pray in session and often refer to scriptures. As with many therapists who are “wounded healers,” I can usually meet clients where they’re at. Because I’m licensed, I’m familiar with many counseling approaches, and I integrate my favorite secular counseling models and techniques that agree with Scripture. As much as you want me to incorporate faith into the counseling, that’s fine with me! But I do counsel atheists, people from other faiths, and people who are on their own faith journey. If this is you, I’ll use secular principles and techniques and will remain objective and non-judgmental. Keep in mind that I love and enjoy people, and as hard as counseling can be, sometimes it’s fun!
I’ve counseled many pastors (and I’m an ordained pastor), and believe me, they struggle with difficult issues, as we all do. Pastors especially may want to read my article on Crosswalk.com. It’s called “Pastoral Infidelity: Problems and Solutions.” Of course, being vulnerable to unfaithfulness is an across-the-board human problem, and it’s not an uncommon issue in couple counseling. The article addresses the important issue that pastors are not immune from this one. And risk factors that are mentioned in this article apply to almost anyone.
I’ve been spiritually wounded myself, so helping people with this kind of pain is part of what I feel called to do. I reviewed two books that relate to spiritual wounding. The reviews are informative and can be found on Amazon.com. As a member of the International Cultic Studies Association, I was blessed that one of my reviews was also published in a recent e-newsletters. If you’ve been spiritually wounded, we’ll seek God together and help you open up to His healing power. There are many good books on spiritual abuse, but you may want to read these books I reviewed:
Wounded Faith: Understanding and Healing from Spiritual Abuse, Edited by Rev. Dr. Neil Damgaard. This book just came out and each chapter contains an article written by a different person that suffered spiritual wounding and made it through to receive healing (that usually took years).
Unmasking the Masquerade: Three Illusionists Investigate Deception, Fear, and the Supernatural, by Rod Robison, Dr. Toby A. Travis and Adrian Van Vactor
That secular counseling principles and techniques actually “work” is no surprise since God established them. As with most therapists, whether or not they know they’re biblical concepts, I make use of all of them at one time or another. I’ve made a list of many of them, and there are many more!
As I walk into my office with a stressed-out client, I sometimes say, “Come into the decompression chamber!” We all need to “decompress” at times, and that’s no joke. Life’s stressors are here to stay! And just as the goal of solving an anxiety issue is to manage and lower it, so we want to manage ourselves in order to lower the stress we experience. In managing ourselves, and to some degree our circumstances, Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy is extremely useful to help “rewire” our brain with truthful, rational, and calming thoughts. Neuro-scientists call the brain’s ability to do this “neuroplasticity.”
I’ll help you sort out what’s in your “circle of influence” and what’s in your “circle of concern.” When we spend our energies on what we can influence, the circle expands. When we spend them on what we’re concerned about (but cannot influence), our circle of influence shrinks.
Because we hold stress in our bodies as well as our minds, I teach relaxation exercises, mindfulness techniques, and different ways to regulate our emotions. Other important interventions include strengthening our relationships, growing in our spiritual life, strategizing for difficult situations we know we’ll be facing, gaining self-awareness, and accepting our limitations. Actually, the list is longer than this, but I go with the flow in helping each client stop “urge surging,” depending on the causes of stress. Everything I said in my summary of treating anxiety applies to treating a client’s vulnerability to stress. Medical attention and lifestyle changes are sometimes recommended.
Here’s a podcast that relates to de-stressing that I did with Dr. Roger Barrier: “Forgiveness, Worry, and Loneliness”
Have you ever said this to your partner? “I’m not sure that what you think I said is what I think you think I said?” Maybe you’ve never put it like that, but these kinds of misunderstandings are often the least of daily problems with couples who struggle. Where two people once complemented each other, they often find themselves in frequent conflicts. I help couples understand their conflicts as “loops,” and I equip them with “loop busters.” If you and your partner have loops that get on you, you can defeat them and make your marriage work!
Because loops are usually symptomatic of unmet relational needs, I also help couples to proactively meet these needs. While sorting through issues—both couple problems and sometimes personal ones—we’ll work together to move from busting loops to building your relationship and improving relationship satisfaction. We may also look at John Gottman’s “four horsemen.” These are negative attitudes and communications that Gottman’s research indicates can take any relationship down. Best of all, I’ll work with you to develop the healing antidotes!
Couple counseling can be very difficult work, but in our sessions, I’ll help foster an atmosphere of comfort and acceptance. There will probably be times when I help us “lighten up.” Sometimes even fun just happens!
Here’s a link to a short blog I wrote that will give you a more complete explanation of loops.
Here’s a list of characteristics of both a healthy and unhealthy marriage. Most people I counsel have many traits of an unhealthy marriage (that’s why they seek marriage counseling!). I’ll work with you to try and make yours a healthy one!
Anxiety and Related Symptoms Such as Obsessive and Intrusive Thoughts
Dealing with anxiety has been a battle through much of my own life. Through hard work, time, and God’s healing, I’ve mellowed out quite a bit over the years, and you’ll find that I help provide a calming atmosphere in our sessions.
To combat anxiety and related problems, I combine Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) with increasing awareness of what’s happening in your body and soul, helping you live more in the here and now, helping you be a better friend with yourself, and helping you with spiritual growth. CBT, mindfulness and relaxation exercises, emotional regulation techniques, and sometimes medications your physician can prescribe are effective ways to defeat anxiety.
Oftentimes, I help clients heal from wounding from the past, and I help them make re-decisions about negative messages received in childhood—or abusive relationships—that enabled their survival. The article and podcasts listed below are explanatory of the CBT model and multiple techniques to defeat anxiety. I understand now more than I did then some principles of attachment theory and the effects of trauma, which are helpful in my approach. But I do not treat what we call serious “complex trauma.”
You may benefit from reading my article on PreachItTeachIt.org: “Anxiety Gone! Healing Worry and Faulty Thinking.”
Dr. Roger Barrier interviews me in many podcasts. These two light-hearted discussions offer a variety of CBT techniques to defeat anxiety:
Part-1 of the anxiety podcasts is “Identify and Beat Anxiety”
Part-2 contains a ton of techniques to defeat anxiety “Methods of Defusing Anxiety”
On a More Personal Note
I’ve had a passion for Christian ministry most of my adult life, beginning with writing contemporary Christian music, making albums, prison outreach, and leading worship. If you want to hear me sing a few of my songs click here to be redirected to YouTube. I suggest you start with “Take Me to Your Planet” and “Do You Love Me?” I’m totally excited about my book God Is in the Crazy (with astounding miracles and reflections on the peaceful life). Five years in the making, it should come out in June or July.
Learning to love God and people better each day is what I’m all about. My morning devotional time, with a cup of coffee, is my favorite time of day. I live in the hills of the Tortolita Mountains with my wife of 35 years, and we love taking walks and relaxing with a café latte or espresso whenever possible!